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📆 P A N D E M I C What a mad old year it’s be

📆 P A N D E M I C
What a mad old year it’s been so far! January felt so full of promise, February was jam packed with good ideas and then the weight of a global pandemic well and truly hit in March!

From doing the entirety of my last trimester in isolation, to having a baby during lockdown, 2020 hasn’t really been the year I thought it would be. I did spend some time dwelling on how my experience of being a mum and on maternity leave had been affected by everything that’s gone on.

HOWEVER! Today marks the first day of my birthday month, and I’m determined to go into the remainder of 2020 with as much passion and get go as I started the year with!

So I’m doing my best to gee you up too! What did you want to achieve this year that you haven’t been able to yet? There’s still four months left of the year, so lets go and GET!

#focused #motivated #chattycaptioncommunity #lblogger #lifestyleblog #lifestyleblogger

🙇🏼‍♀️L O A D The household, your caree

🙇🏼‍♀️L O A D
The household, your career, the childcare, finances, the meal plan, travel logistics, holiday planning, the washing, the gardening etc etc etc🙄The gender divide with the mental load is SUCH a reality for so many of us.

The men in our lives are (hopefully) loving, caring partners, who see us as their equals. Unfortunately they’ve grown up within years of systemic sexism where the responsibility and mental load of daily life has largely been taken on by the women in their lives. Similarly for us, we’ve absorbed these lessons and on many levels believe that this is also our role.

Maybe you’ve been told ‘you could have asked for help’ when expressing frustration at the amount of tasks on your plate.

Maybe you and your partner divide the labour between you, but it’s your role to know what needs doing to then be able to share these tasks out.

Either way, in many households the woman becomes responsible for the running of the household on top of much of the childcare responsibilities and often on top of a career as well.

So how to resolve this? Communicate with your partner about your mental load and work together to find a solution. One size fits all won’t work for all families but sitting down together to list out all of the responsibilities (even just things that need to be ‘remembered’) can help you both to work to reassign elements of this.

Have you struggled with mental load? What strategies have worked for you? Share below 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼

#mentalhealth #mentalhealth #genderequality #thegendergap #womenempoweringwomen #lblogger

💪🏼 F E M I N I S T Ani DeFranco’s definiti

💪🏼 F E M I N I S T
Ani DeFranco’s definition of a feminist is perfect! Too often we hear that feminists are like x, y or z.

The reality for me is that feminists are two things:

1️⃣They believe in the equality of the sexes
2️⃣They believe women should have the freedom to make their own decisions and become exactly who they want

That means as women we have to be conscious to not let unconscious bias impact what we think womanhood is, or should be and not let these preconceived ideas spill into the definition of feminism too. As we have grown up, we have absorbed and been influenced by countless opinions.

👙🔥I was taught that the word feminist pretty much always came in reference to ‘bra burners’, when in fact feminism is a deeply individual and personal thing for all those that identify as a feminist (although as a wise woman once said, let’s call ‘feminism’ the norm and if you aren’t a feminist, you’re sexist 😉).

That includes the pressure that we put on ourselves too. For example, if you’ve internalised a focus on ‘career’ is that because you think that’s what the aspiration should be, or is it because having a great career is an important aspect of you and aligned to your values? ⚖️

There’s no shame in admitting you’ve internalised options and viewpoints over your lifetime, by being conscious of them you can focus on being more in tune with your values and desires, and living a life that answers these 🙌🏼

#feminism #purpose #genderequality #lifestyleblogger #womensupportingwomen #lblogger #independentwoman

🍌 Y O N A N A S The tastiest non dairy ice crea

🍌 Y O N A N A S
The tastiest non dairy ice cream around! I love making this when it gets hot outside and a craving hits.

Would you believe this is made with three ingredients only?!

🍌Bananas, chopped into thirds and frozen
🍫Some chocolate squares
🌰Grated chocolate chips/diced nuts

I use my Yonanas machine for this ‘ice cream’ which was a PR gift donkeys years ago! If you don’t have one you could use a low setting on a food processor. They key is to not blend your ingredients too intensely or you’ll just end up with watery banana soup!

Once your bananas are frozen, push them through the yonanas machine, follow each piece of banana with a piece of chocolate. Then run the whole thing through the machine again to get this freezing cold deliciousness! You can alter the sweetness of your ‘ice cream’ by using bananas that are very ripe.

I’m tempted to get the machine out again to try all sorts of different combinations... Biscoff ice cream anyone?!

What’s your favourite ice cream combination? 🍦

#lbloggers #instarecipes #recipes #recipe #lblogger #recipeoftheday #lifestyleblogger #healthyrecipes

🌮 S M E A R F E A R That time is just around th

🌮 S M E A R F E A R
That time is just around the corner for me, so what better way to celebrate than chatting about it?!

Have you heard the eye watering stat that more than a quarter of young women are too embarrassed to attend smear tests, with 72% of the 25-29 year-old respondents admitting they don’t feel comfortable getting undressed in front of doctors or nurses.

In fact, more than 1.2million women are risking their lives by avoiding smear tests. 🙅🏼‍♀️

Now don’t get me wrong. There’s plenty more things I’d rather be doing than whipping off my kecks for some unassuming screening nurse. However, this stuff is so, so, so important.

In the past, abnormal screening results have meant I’ve had a series of colposcopy screenings and had we not found the abnormal cells there and then, who knows how serious the situation would be right now.

Those five minutes of discomfort can protect you in the long run, so don’t let embarrassment hold you back!

Let’s remove the connotations of embarrassment because quite frankly – taking our health seriously and looking after our bodies is one of the most empowering things we can do.

For those who have experienced any kind of sexual trauma in the past and find cervical screening particularly distressing, Jo’s Trust has some great advice on how to handle your appointments and the control you can have over aspects of your screening appointments.

#cervicalhealth #smearfear #cervicalcancer #womenshealth #lblogger #lifestyleblogger

💆🏼‍♀️ H Y P N O B I R T H I N G Before

💆🏼‍♀️ H Y P N O B I R T H I N G
Before I actually did it, I thought one of the scariest things I would ever do was give birth. I definitely had the fear, thanks to everyone LOVING the drama stories and the years of ‘birth experience’ that I’d absorbed indirectly over the years.

The stitches!
The EMERGENCY situations!
The screaming!
The ring of fire!
The AGONY of contractions!

Once I fell pregnant I was determined to not spend nine months of my life in fear and happened to come across @thepositivebirthcompany and instantly felt excited at the prospect of having a positive experience.

After reading the book and doing the online course, I was hooked! The logic and science which broke down the different stages of labour and what our body does when and why made so much sense. The positive affirmations felt a little daft to me but I bought into them - little did I know they’d actually get my through some of the more intense parts of my labour!

Thanks to the hypnobirthing mindset, working with my baby and the strength of my body, I was able to give birth at home with minimal intervention with a baby that was back to back and had a nuchal hand. In fact, apart from monitoring Samson’s heartbeat and loosening the cord from his wrist, my midwife didn’t touch me at all!

Hypnobirthing is now an invaluable tool I’ve got in my brain - the calming breathing helps me through stressful situations, and if I feel fearful I come back to the science around oxytocin and adrenaline and work with my body to get my mind back into a ‘green’ state. 🚦

So whilst some may have seen it as ‘brave’ to give birth at home as a first time mum, instead I wanted to share a little bit so that anyone who feels that fear can know that it WILL be okay, and hypnobirthing just may be the key to a positive experience, whatever happens 🗝

Have you heard of hypnobirthing before?

#hypnobirthing #pregnant #pregnancy #positivebirth #positivebirthcompany #mumblogger #lifestyleblogger #mummyblogger #pregnantlife

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